A large and growing number of Jewish singles are using the many free Jewish dating services to find a mate. Finding a marriageable partner is never an easy task but in the past years, the internet has made things much easier, literally opening the entire world to those who are searching for their other half.
It's important for the dating parties to look for someone who shares the same values and ideals, as well as similar religious backgrounds. Orthodox Judaism discourages dating without the intention of marriage, so it's important to go into online Jewish dating with this in mind. It's also crucial to communicate clearly, honestly and openly with all prospective matches, whether things seem to be progressing or not progressing. Confidence and a positive attitude are also essential when dating online.
Jdate has become one of the best Jewish dating sites, being the most popular of the free Jewish dating services, and there are many more such influential services emerging. Many of these online Jewish dating websites have memberships that reach into the millions, and claim to have had a hand in thousands of successful matches. These sites feature tools such as photos, email, instant messaging, chatting and more. Most of the free Jewish dating services also offer premium memberships that boast even more tools to help in finding a suitable match.
Another one of the best Jewish dating sites is Saw You at Sinai, which works in a traditional way, using matchmakers. Each person looking for a mate receives two expert, dedicated matchmakers who will do the searching. Saw You at Sinai is endorsed by Rabbis all over the world. There are over 30,000 members and have been over 1,000 marriages. There is a small per-month fee for using this service.
Frumster is another great site for frum dating, open to those all over the world. After choosing a country and a hashkafah, or stream of Orthodoxy, a person is instantly connected to many Jewish singles and potential matches. There is no fee to join Frumster, but communicating with other members costs a small fee per month.
Many rabbis advocate for online Jewish dating services, especially due to the disturbing rise in the rate of intermarriage. These rabbis say that the more resources there are for Jewish singles, the better. While perhaps there was once a stigma to meeting a partner online, due to rising popularity, this stigma has all but disappeared even within Orthodox Judaism. One thing to look out for is confirming that the people who are found through these sites are actually Jewish. On a frum dating site like Saw You at Sinai, which uses shadchanim, it may be easier to verify such things, but on a site like Jdate with so many members, stringency may be required to confirm that the person one wants to date is who they say they are.
Other forms of free Jewish dating services include using shadchanim, or matchmakers, especially those who are not professional. Professional shadchanim may require a fee, but there are plenty of matchmakers out there who make matches only for the mitzvah, or the commandment, of doing so, and not for money at all. This mitzvah comes from the episode in the Torah, in the book of Bereshit, where Avraham tells his servant Elizaer to find a wife for his son Yitzchak. "Take a wife for my son Yizchak" (Bereshit 24:4) Shadhanim may have a smaller pool of potential matches than the millions who are online, but when it comes to frum dating, matchmakers are a wonderful and traditional way to go.
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