Jewish Singles Dating Services at young age
In the traditional Orthodox Jewish dating universe, shidduchim, or Jewish dating singles, are generally put together at a younger age than in the non-Orthodox Jewish world.
Though the age when shidduchim start may vary by community, in Ultra Orthodox circles, especially among Hassidim, between the ages of 18 and 20 is the age when shidduchim start. In many communities, young couples have large families at a very young age, when compared to the rest of the population. There are also many Orthodox Jews who turn to Jewish singles dating services to find a match, and Jews of all ages use these types of services. Many of these are free online Jewish dating services, and many only charge a small fee. Jews of all ages, from 18 to seniors, use these websites.
In the Middle Ages, girls were married off at a very young age. Some of the rabbis in the Talmud were in favor of having boys marry as soon as the age of legal responsibility came. In these times, those who were unmarried after the age of 20 were considered cursed by God. Full-time Torah study was seen as a valid reason for delaying marriage, but life-long celibacy was, and still is, discouraged. In modern times, child marriage is not practiced at all in the Jewish community. In Orthodox Jewish life, the law of the land is followed, and such young marriage is banned in most countries.
Many will say that there is a current shidduch crisis going on. Apparently, there are many unmarried girls who can't find boys to marry. As these girls age, it becomes more and more difficult for them to find a mate. This phemonenon has led many religious Jews to the Jewish singles dating services and Jewish dating online. Low cost and free Jewish online dating seems to be helping to close the gap, but there are many who feel that there are simply not enough boys for the girls to be paired with.
Many Jewish singles have turned to the myriad of special prayers and segulas, or spiritual remedies, to find a match. Some segulas include reciting Shir HaShirim every day for 40 days, praying at the Kottel, or the Western Wall, every day for 40 days, praying on behalf of someone else who needs a shidduch, reciting certain tehillim, or psalms, learning about the laws of lashon hara, or evil speech and many, many more.
There are often matchmakers who deal specifically with those who are older than average and looking for a life partner. Jews who are single and looking need not despair, and only take things one date at a time.
Of course, there are many Jewish dating singles who don't get engaged between the ages of 18 and 20, even in the Ultra Orthodox world. Many Jewish dating singles have turned to Jewish singles dating services, many of which are free Jewish online dating services. Jewish dating on line has exploded in the past few years. Jewish singles dating services are a fun, adventurous and effective way to find a perspective marriage partner.
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