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Dating Jewish - The Goal of Dating

Those using an online Jewish dating service, especially those who are Orthodox Jews, primarily date only for the expressed purpose of getting married. Casual dating is highly discouraged, and the act of getting married is considered very holy, during which the man and the woman become one.

Things don't end at the wedding, however. Another important concept within the Jewish view of marriage is shalom bayit, which translates to "peace in the home." Shalom bayit refers to the idea of having domestic harmony and good relations between husband and wife.

Family life reigns supreme over all other aspects of Jewish life. A pure and peaceful home is a home in which the Shechina, or the Divine Presence dwells, so say Chazal, or the Jewish sages of old. Orthodox Jews who are trying to make Jewish singles connections will have marriage in mind, and it's never too early to learn some tips to achieve shalom bayit.

One important way to attain lasting shalom bayit within a marriage is to spend time together. Even a small amount of daily, uninterrupted time can make all the difference in any marriage. Date nights together are also wonderful, when they are possible. Life can see as though it's getting in the way, but spending quality time together is great key to building closeness. When spending time together, really focus on and listen to one another.

When using Jewish dating agencies or an online Jewish dating service, it may seem far-reaching to ponder about these things already, but remember to be grateful to your spouse, and to show that gratitude. Simply saying "thank you" for all the little things that he or she does for you; it ends up being quite a lot! Most of us would show basic politeness to strangers, so our spouses deserve at least the same.

People are people, and disagreements and arguments will happen. But it's important to argue thoughtfully, not overreact and not attack your partner verbally. Equally important is making up afterwords. Never be afraid to apologize.

Husband and wife are considered one being, with one soul. In fact, Adam the first man created in the image of God, was not considered whole until Chava (Even in English) was formed from his rib, and no man, according to Chazal, is considered complete without a wife. Those involved in Jewish internet dating and other Jewish dating agencies would be wise to remember this, and really take dating seriously.

Shalom bayit is considered so fundamental to Jewish life that even God Himself told a white lie to make sure that Avraham and Sarah have shalom bayit. After being told by angels that they will conceive a child in their old age, Sarah laughs, not believing that it can be true. She says, "After I am old shall I have pleasure, my husband being old also?" When God speaks to Abraham, He says, "Why did Sarah laugh and say, 'Will I have a child, now that I am old?" (Genesis: 18:12-13). The rabbis comment that God omitted Sarah's mention of Abraham's advanced age out of concern for their shalom bayit.

When using online Jewish dating services, Jewish internet dating or are looking to make Jewish singles connections, have the end goal in mind. Jewish internet dating is a wonderful tool to meet one's bashert, or one's predestined mate, and it's wise to know about shalom bayit and its importance in Jewish life. Online Jewish dating services that make Jewish singles connections often have dating coaches, as well as marriage coaches.

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